Article published in Clarin newspaper, June 16th 2016, Buenos Aires
“Our current evil is not looking inside”
Link to the original article in Spanish
According to Verónica Gomelsky (49), specialist in psychosomatic illnesses, health disorders are always originated in emotional factors. She proposes a “bond therapy” and psychoanalysis.
Gomelsky quotes Bach: “There are imbalances when the soul does not agree with the personality”. Physical disorders are the way in which the emotional system shouts.
She is not the typical Freudian psychoanalyst even though she studied at the University of Buenos Aires and got her Bachelor Degree as Certified Psychologist, navigating the orthodox waters of psychoanalysis. Obedient disciple and curious professional, she worked at the beginning of her career at hospitals such as Durand Hospital to get a specialization in Psychosomatic Illnesses. “All illnesses have an emotional origin”, she says while ready to share some revelations about her life as a therapist. Having many years of experience, she dares to assert that “psychoanalysis is excellent as a technique but does not reach the pathological base of suffering; I observed that people continued suffering once and again, repeating the same problems. The 45-minute session with the interpretation of the professional is not enough, and by basing our problems on our parents’ faults does not make the issue go away, the focus isn’t placed on the responsibility of our own incapacity to resolve problems and it isn’t transmitted that what you don’t do for yourself, no one else will do for you. Based on this certainty, my technique is bonding therapy, where I establish an extra commitment with the patient. That plus means a different kind of commitment from me and the approval of the patient”. She admits: “There are patients who don’t accept my proposal”. For Verónica Gomelsky (49), psychoanalysis is complemented with Bach Flowers and with her method: bonding therapy. Besides her personal practices with Holistic Light Treatment and Ho’oponopono, of her astrological knowledge and her belief on past lives, her method integrates concepts that she will explain along the interview. Base matrix, “fairly good therapist”, karma, mission and learning of the soul would be some of the integrated notions of her speech. Even if for some, this approach would be controversial her patients give proof that they have obtained evident advances in their health.
Change the base “All the contents we have since the beginning of our life, transmitted by the mother, stays engraved in the subconscious mind as a manufacture seal. When we grow up –we don’t wear diapers anymore but we continue wearing emotional diapers– people want to solve problems with the tools they inherited. I have seen the repetition of severe pathologies according to an emotional familiar genetic; so, if a new emotional base is built, there will be an effective solution” points Gomelsky. “Taking this conclusion as a starting point, after three or four sessions I make a diagnosis and give the patient some feedback with what I think is going on. It is there when I suggest the treatment with bonding psychoanalysis therapy. What does this bonding therapy consist on? It consists on offering myself as a clean slate where my patient projects their primary bonds. But my feedback will be completely different from the feedback they would get from those bonds. I present myself as a “fairly good” therapist–as developed by the English psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott– who set forth the concept of fairly good mother; the one who is present but neither in excess or scarcity, she is in presently enough. Depending on how the primary bonds are –what the contact with the mother left, especially– how they will solve problems in adulthood. As when we grow up we take out the elements that we absorbed when we were kids. My proposal is that each patient knows which their primary structure is. I give them feedback regarding this as well as tools for resolving that structure. Session after session I notice that the patient is releasing the maternal elements. Who is available to transmit healthy concepts, who can dissociate healthily so as not to infect them with personal defects? I do it. In fact, I work with my therapist so as to be healthy and in balance. I must be doing something good as severe pathologies are resolved. Of course, the transition between the base matrix –with all the issues not solved by the mother and received as infection– and the matrix the patient starts to build is an uncomfortable period. During the treatment the base matrix is moving slowly, it can’t be eliminated, it is left as if it were on the corner, it loses meaning and functionality. What I propose today is no longer to use the expired or outdated elements; when we move that base there is nothing left and we have to build a new one”. Authorized and enrolled in Bach Flowers, she starts with the premise that “all illnesses have an emotional origin”, and she adds a precise explanation: “The emotional origin of the illness is on the base matrix. Each time a person gets sick they are going back to their nest. When a person repeats something it is done as an attempt of elaboration, but when one gets sick it’s like going back to the breast with sour milk, one goes back to familiar environment, pathological but known. Bach said that illnesses are produced when the soul and the personality don’t agree, when there’s an imbalance. The not on the throat, the anguish, they don’t go out, they are not eliminated, so where do they go? They go inside and provoke disorder; the physical symptom is the last place where the emotional system can shout. So, when it hurts physically, we listen. And sometimes it ‘s late. I receive people who have serious illnesses, who are diagnosed only three months of living and a lot can be done with them. I achieve results with a very ancient Hawaiian art of problem solving called Ho’oponopono that works with forgiveness and being sorry in order to clean, erase and reach the essence of the identity. Morrnah Simeona updated these teachings, she was recognized as Kahuna lapa’au (healer) in Hawaii and distinguished as a “Living Treasure” by that country in 1983. Together with doctor Ihaleakalá Hew Len she worked on Identity of Self. What does this mean? That if there’s a family conflict it’s enough if there’s just one erasing the damaging imprints –generational mistakes– so that everyone else heals. Whatever is erased in us it is erased from our families and ancestors. In my case, Ho’oponopono operates as a tool at the service of my patients. Ninety percent of our problems come from our ancestors; I apply certain passwords that prepare the area of intuition and make the cleaning possible. Bonding therapy together with the building of the new matrix allow to act from essence and not from heritage. Psychoanalysis reaches a certain limit and I feel that with base matrix I go beyond that limit, stripping the e motional causes of the physical illness”.
Seminars to awaken “I dictate seminars about these topics not to heal people but so that they are informed and are more alert: what you don’t do for yourself no one will do for you. I talk about karma as understanding why we came from our parents, with that particular matrix and what are we here to learn. When you reach those answers, layers start peeling, those layers which hide who you are, what is your essence and your mission in this life. The learning of the soul –another resulting concept– implies that having passed through the previous instances, your soul starts to learn. I also connect matrix with astrology, as most of my patients have not resolve the conflicts with their mother. And what I find in serious pathologies is that there is bad emotional nutrition, a deficit. When I investigate I find out that the Moon is the mother…But all these resources are for me and my seminars, they are meant to cause people to listen and awaken. I am very sure of myself and of what I do –says Gomelsky towards the end of the interview. “I had an important familiar deficit; my mother died when I was 11 years old and my father was a very severe man. But thanks to that karma, I am where I am; I have been saved by the Psychology Dora Jaimóvich –a fairly good professional–with whom I worked the mourning of my mother. I can declare that the one luxury of my life is the family I built with my children’s father, a partner for 32 years. I was pregnant six times and had three kids: Florencia (18), Nico (14) and Sofía (12) and I was a fairly good mother to them. I tried to learn with my children, not to be too present or not present enough. They have their matrix already built and i had retraced their base matrix while they were growing up. Mothers have to help deactivate that base matrix so that the relationship becomes healthier. It would be ideal if we did it at 6; I did it with my kids at 9. Today’s evil is that people don’t look inside and to touch the mother or the ancestors is not well seen. It’s a challenge”. .
“What we don’t do for ourselves, nobody will ever do for us. There are layers which hide who you are…”
By Sissi Ciosescu / Especial Para Mujer / F: Gerardo Del Oro
Matrix Base Seminar, Karma and Mission, November 2014, Buenos Aires
I cannot express how I felt; I think we all perceived it as “happy” transmitting from my Mission, the Mission of all of you.
Everything was different, the exchange between people, the feedback, the questions, the participation, it was a truly wonderful integration.
I know it’s a lot of information but you received it and absorbed it perfectly well, I am proud of all of you, I truly thank you with my heart.
It felt in peace, everything flowed in synchronism, it really was a great pleasure, I thank the Universe and God for this opportunity of putting my mission at the service of all those who suffer, who want a change in their lives and are willing with courage and value to make the big step.
We can choose, that’s what’s all about, we are free in our choices, probably it will be imaginatively more comfortable and familiar the repetition of the old, worn and outdated, but believe me, taking the decisive step towards freedom and happiness is simply being open to what’s new and unknown, accepting the fear of being happy and living in dharma without old frights.
For me in life there are no mistakes, only lessons, so maybe there is not much to look back, just make the decision to create a new healthy lifestyle based on our true desire which is our true essence.
Healing your Matrix is to heal your soul, healing your soul is living in peace, thank you all for trusting me. I want to thank specially Laura Volberg for her commitment, dedication and for accepting the growing pains from the unconditional love.
To Martha Zuker, Maru S, Claudia and Andrea for their friendship and for always being with me from their love.
To Lic. Dora Jaimovich, to Dr Mauricio Chevnik and to Dr Rubén Zuckerfeld, without them, today I would not be the full and happy woman I am. And a special thanks to my children and to Julián, I assure you that I know what is the support of a family; they are part of my mission and my greatest achievement. And to my patients, whom every day help me to be a better person and a better professional, I love you deeply.
Desire, Karma and Mission
We have to link the Pleasure Principle with dharma, balance, harmony, enjoyment, pleasure, it is THE DESIRE FROM THE DRIVE OF LIFE.
Beyond the Pleasure Principle is related to the concept of JOY within psychoanalysis, whatever is not pleasant, it is similar to finding pleasure in suffering, the desire from the drive of death.
Apart from what is desired or expressed by the patient, several traumatic experiences, linked to what therapists call the Drive of Death, are repeated. This is pain, karmic memories that are part of our life and are the base of our primary learning.
It is also DESIRE, but desire from a very different place. We can wonder who might DESIRE to live once and again the same traumatic experiences or to repeat painful memories for the rest of their lives. However, it is a frequent question in the universal existence of everyone who lives on this marvelous planet.
And the answer is: we all repeat painful experiences even if we do not consciously wish that to happen. Therefore, for Freud, dreams are “the realization of desire”, including traumatic or upsetting dreams.
The same traumatic process of repetition is not only NOT negative, but it is the most important mechanism when we try to solve and re-elaborate traumas that come from this and other lives. They are karmic debts that we have not sorted out and that push to come to out in order to light our path with a new structure.
Freud defines DESIRE as the DESIRE OF THE OTHER, in my conceptualization of Base Matrix we can understand how at the beginning, in our primary structure, the building of the psychic system and of our experience of beginning and incarnation, it is framed and structured around the maternal figure. That is, according to the view of another person.
Just as the theorization of DESIRE, in the Base Matrix, DESIRE is determined by the DESIRE OF THE OTHER.
Dr. D. Winnicott, British Doctor and Psychoanalyst, conceptualizes the “Mirror Stage”, the mirror of a child regarding his or her own image is the VIEW OF THE MOTHER, what this view gives back is what the child is for this OTHER, that defines him or her through his or her OWN DESIRE.
We have already seen in my other writings, that this initial process should last, in healthy conditions, the first five or six years of our lives. But, unfortunately and pathologically, we bear with it for the rest of our lives and we are stuck in a primary bond of dependence and disease. That bond contains the biggest memories of pain and repetition of our lives.
The concept of DESIRE developed by Freud is implied in the Base Matrix based on this maternal figure as a Determining Other.
Your Mission in life is that silent process that you are not even aware of because it is not available to consciousness until you can solve and get over old pending subjects that are repeated, darkening your present, shading the light that reflects your truth, your path, your Mission in life.
The repetition of those pending issues is called Karma and in psychoanalysis, Compulsion to Repeat. Karma, repetition of memories or Compulsion to repeat is a mechanism that is automatically and unconsciously expressed “besides what we desire”, it is an attempt to elaborate pending traumatic burdens.
Now you can see why DESIRE, KARMA AND MISSION are related.
Your Mission is the most important process in your life in Dharma. The most essential element of a healing process, “PASSION”, is located in your mission. It is the only element that when practiced from the Soul Plan brings about full abundance in all the levels of your life.
Your Mission is your healing, the beginning of your mission is the abolition of karma.
Your Mission needs a strategy, it cannot come to light until your karmic debts, your pending issues from other lives, have been settled.
Inner peace, contact with nature, with mother Earth, with your inner voice, your superior me can help awaken your mission.
You are the main resistance to incarnate your mission, because your mission is something new and we FEAR whatever is new and unknown. It represents the chaos of the unpredictable whereas your karma is familiar, your known and old painful memories, your pending issues that are always with you and in so many incarnations have never left you alone. They are familiar situations for you because you have already lived them.
When you ask me and ask yourself WHAT YOUR MISSION IS, you should not address me. Look within you and slowly observe yourself, your mission is inside you.
You cannot discover it in your daily chaos, which is why you are here today.
You are the only person in the whole Universe that has the precise piece of information, a part of you that you may call unconsciousness or soul plan is aware of it and knows exactly what it is.
You just have to discover it in an environment of light and inner peace.
“Your only Mission in this life is to be happy”.
You can be guided by causality, signs that indicate the right direction, the exact way to reach your goal and achieve your mission. Diseases are also guides, the affected organ is not chosen by chance, it is directly related and represents what has not been solved at an emotional level. Nothing in life happens by chance, everything has a cause, and there is a reason and a cause for everything, for each circumstance.
Behind that cause we can find the most important piece of information, the cause contains the pending issues in the history of the karma of your life that you have not solved yet and that prevent you from enjoying in dharma.
Do not let anything or anyone lead you apart from your Mission, it is unique and unrepeatable. You may have forgotten it but you planned it in the past and it is surely perfect and right for the learning of your soul.
When you enter your Mission you have the unconditional support of Universal Abundance, a Utopian world for some human beings in which all your DESIRES are possible, it is a world full of miracles.
Here you receive Unlimited Divine Protection, take responsibility for this, incarnate your Mission in life, it is the maximum power of inner wisdom in connection with Divine light.
Your Mission immunizes you against pain, suffering, diseases, repetition of memories and karma, even though the latter is useful for your initial learning. It immunizes you so that it does not repeat itself creating conflicts and unhappiness.
Your Mission brings abundance, fullness and harmony to all your life.
Knowing your MISSION is the true gift of the Universe in this life.
Now tell me WHAT YOUR MISSION IS…
Lic. Verónica Marcela Gomelsky
Psychologist M.N. 23684. Bonding Psicotherapy. Specialist in Psychosomatic Illnesses.
Practitioner in Bach Flowers ARP 2011-0527M. Holistic Light Treatment HLT, Pt nro 13/195,205.
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Seminar of Individual Matrix Base, May 2014, Buenos Aires.
Everyone knows how to contact me and you all know that I will always answer each and every email query in person, that you are not alone in this.
On Saturday I felt a lot of responsibility as regards the material I wanted to provide, again sorry if I was too fast with some concepts, I’m also learning, I clean!
I felt now that I know many of you know their matrix and have their matrix elements to heal it, I could go beyond the consulting room and reach many souls in need of healing and concrete solutions to the great suffering of their lives.
THE DAY THAT YOU COULD ANSWER THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION OF YOUR LIFE, “WHO I AM”, that day you will be in the freedom granted unlimited happiness. Remember that when we are in the Matrix base, the word that helps to solve is LIMIT, outside the Matrix everything is unlimited, love, money, passion, happiness.
I confess that I felt very comfortable, I think that my cleaning well worth, the the right and perfect people attended, THE SEMINAR WAS AN OPPORTUNITY, I took it in that way and so should all take it, as a chance to say NOT TO OLD HISTORY REPETITION, as we know it, don´t we? Then as all good fairy came to an end, Saturday’s session shows it, as it was not an accident but the opposite, it was absolutely causal.
Thanks to those who came from so far, Chubut!, Thanks to those who embraced me with their troubles, their emotions and fears, Thanks to my patients without them today I would not be who I am, a happy soul and at peace, thanks to Lauri Volberg for so much patience and love, thanks to my family for their unconditional support and Thanks to Florencia because her paintings lit up my life and now they are illuminating the lives of all of you!
I especially want to mention Zulema Volberg, she is, was and will be A GOOD ENOUGH MOTHER for me!!
This email is so sincere that does not even have a draft copy and you know why? Because I write from my inspiration to a group of souls willing to open up like me, willing to heal.
I love you,
Thanks, Thanks, Thanks
Seminar Base Matrix Romania, Marzo 2014
This message is just of love and thanks, I did not spend in my whole life such a moving experience, nor as rewarding as the one I lived in Romania during the recent days.
Thank you all for coming, thank you for participating with such love and patience to understand all the concepts, thanks for being so simple, so simple, so loving, I think it is no coincidence that the Universe has chosen as I said at the seminar as THE INITIAL AMBASSADORS OF THE MATRIX BASE IN EUROPE.
I’m full of love and NICE memories, I have present in me every face, every cry, every gesture, every hug, every one of you.
I was so comfortable that I could hardly realize that it was a seminar, thanks for this, because far from my family and my home, all you have done with this is that I want to return soon, very soon.
We are in contact if we want, everyone knows it.
I am planning for the next trip that you all have the possibility of private practice and also giving, little by little, Learning, Plan of the Soul, Karma and Mission in this life.
Calm down, slow, I clean and the universe organizes, when we meet again, it will be the right and perfect for everyone and I’ll be there.
I love you with all my heart, you will heal, trust it is a process, it takes time but you can!! trust! you will achieve it, each one at his time, at the right time.
You have a lot of information now and that’s very important, it is very valuable, it’s personal information, it is the necessary for the change of structure, you all know what I mean.
If you came to my seminar is that they are ready to make the jump. Otherwise you would be spinning in conventional therapies.
Thanks Romanians, I was happy, comfortable and peaceful.
Thanks for letting me start my mission in your home, now my house too.
Thanks to Laura Volberg for holding me up from Argentina and to Cristi and his family for being with me in Romania.
I love them
Thanks for having translated and sent to Veronica who has sent us this wonderful message.
Please give her a message on my behalf after the translation of the message.
In March 2012 I attended the first Ho’oponopono course which mabel was giving in Bucarest in May 2010. I had the opportunity to participate in the land of Dr. Hew Len. Since then I have participated in almost every Ho’oponopono seminary organized in Rumania, 13 in total (I was absent in three occasions). In all of the cases I went with my sister Anna, my daughter Anca and my other daughter Oana who lacks of this course, but next time she’ll be there.
For us the base matrix seminary, gradually became a way of purifying life. In each seminary, I felt some cleaning. Now we can say, once and for all that the seminary has helped us to give a great leap in the understanding of our role in this world and solutions for each of us. It strengthened our confidence when the release of the base matrix was coming closer.
We all felt it, even Oana who participated. Thank you and thanks to the divinity which has sent you.
Thanks, thanks Christ divinity who inspires us about this seminary.
I’m very glad you are happy here in Rumania because here we really need you, Multumesc, the divinity.
We have started the treatment with flower essences, and the are already making effect. I feel happiness and joy in my life. I am sure I am on the right way.
Your seminary was one of the most exciting moments of my life.
Thank you, we really love you and we are looking forward to seeing you again. This is your house. Your presence fills us with joy and hope.
My last encounter with Veronica was the last Straw that “healed” the camel’s back. Each hour, each moment of my 58 years, suffering, searches and misery.
I heard about Veronica, about her radio program explaining about the base matrix. What we do after our first 5-6 years of life, and I realized I needed her help and I decided It was about time I changed my life. And I did so. A workshop with Veronica was enough to start my healing process, to be in peace, the inner peace I have never felt in my entire life. What she did during the seminaries when we talked about the basic kinds of matrix, the matrix where we all are. But one thing is true–We all were in a state of peace. Each of us reacted in a different way regarding to our physical symptoms, according to our matrix but we all shared that sense of peace. The healing process was initiated from all the participants.
Now we only have to apply what Veronica has taught us to heal our childhood matrix. I am 100% sure that I am going to do it soon. I can feel it. I am full of gratitude. Thank you Vero, THANK YOU!
Please, Thank verónica on my behalf. 🙂
In my case, participatin in this seminary last weekend was a very profound experience. In some way I got to understand that there areb some clues waiting there for me. 🙂
I feel fine, I am calm and I am certain to continue this way. The fact that I signed in this course for the first time wasn’t an accident, I have no idea why though.
Thanks again from the bottom of my heart!
And you 🙂
Seminar Base Matrix, November 2013, Buenos Aires
I am thankful to all of you for this opportunity, for all your love , to my patients, my friends and all the participants, specially to my family which is unconditional. I am excited, happy, willing to go on with my own plan, my guide is my inspiration, and I hope the same for you from this Saturday on.
Thank you, I love you
Thank You, Thank You, Thank You
“Thanks to my patients for being in my life and teaching me the real secret of happiness and healing”
July 12, 2013
I am convinced that “mothers” (biological or therapeutic ones) give us an incredible example. They show us that we are capable of producing an “explosion” producing the start of a new life. This beginning is a miracle that occurs because, giving life to such a marvel being, with unmatched perfection, can not be considered less than a miracle. From a “son” (or a new life / stage), something wonderful will happen …
Vero, I congratulate you for your web page. You really show what you are: clear and sincere, among many other small things.
Thank you for your uterus that worked for me as my elementary school, and for teaching me the “learning of living” in which I’m still on.
Lic. Veronica Gomelsky
July 20, 2013
Great Ma!!!, You are wonderful!!! Congratulations to you, to Gustavo, to Violeta and welcome Luna!!!
You know very well the path taken, right?, you are the only creator of all this happiness that fills your life today, is a MIRACLE seeing how you grew, overcoming all the obstacles that became a great learning.
Thank you for trusting me
I’m sorry, I love you!
July 20, 2013
.. as the song says ”…but it’s about living, that’s the story…” that was my principle until I decided to open the door of my healing process and the assistants took me on their lap to meet you…
There, I could see myself, my life was passing by… in an old and dry matrix, that the only thing that brought me was uncertainty and no movement, there was no room for the new to be born. In your mothering, I got my courage back, my generosity, and a lot of joy. Your are like the goddess of spiritual birth, with love, truth and trust… the little girl opened the doors of her soul and decided to walk to the bridge of freedom, which nobody took away from her, if not her own subjection…
Now Vero.. Thank you for the hard work shared. With a lot of work and commitment… I stood up and I started to move along the path that I chose at birth, choosing the bifurcation of freewill, the peace and the spiritual calm. Thank you… thank you…thank you… by your hand, nothing seems impossible…
Lic. Veronica Gomelsky
July 20, 2013
Dear Susi, thank you for trusting me, it’s a pleasure all the shared work, your loveliness, your transparency, your desire to heal makes things much easier, now you’re a “great teacher” at what you do, helping to awaken souls, I congratulate you for all the great effort that was well worth it!!!
We meet again in this life and I think the mission is accomplished,
Thank you, I’m sorry, I love you
July 21, 2013
thank you for being in my life, for teaching me to do ho´oponopono
and for teaching me to cleanse, thank you, thank you, I love you with all my soul
and hope you do great with the web page
Lic. Veronica Gomelsky
August 13, 2013
Sofi, thanks for all the love you give me, thanks for being in my life, I love you!!!!!
María Palma y Genovés
August 4, 2013
Happy to share the day of November 16!
I’m sorry. Forgive me. Thank you. I love you.
Lic. Veronica Gomelsky
August 13, 2013
Mery, welcome, I congratulate you on your opening, hope to see you so you can learn to solve, to let go, to trust, thank you.
August 22, 2013
I know you do not like us talking about you, but thank you thank you thank you for joining me in the healing process to reach this state of peace where all good things happen, where life is lived carefree trusting God, Universe, or as we want to call it and enjoying this wonderful life!
You are my favorite substitute mother!!
I’m sorry, I love you.
November 17, 2013
I congratulate you for the seminar on Saturday 16/11. It really moved me and left me speechless. I also congratulate you for the family that you put together, for showing it to us, for your honesty and transparency, and for your group and team work, who have achieved an extraordinary day. Have a good start I love you
Thank you, thank you, thank you
November 18, 2013
I SEE YOU
I see your soul, your true essence;
I see who you really are.
I respect you, I greet you, honor you, I recognize you, I receive you.
I connect with you…
Once again, thank you Vero!!
I Love You!