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“Our current evil is not looking inside”
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According to Verónica Gomelsky (49), specialist in psychosomatic illnesses, health disorders are always originated in emotional factors. She proposes a “bond therapy” and psychoanalysis.
Gomelsky quotes Bach: “There are imbalances when the soul does not agree with the personality”. Physical disorders are the way in which the emotional system shouts.
She is not the typical Freudian psychoanalyst even though she studied at the University of Buenos Aires and got her Bachelor Degree as Certified Psychologist, navigating the orthodox waters of psychoanalysis. Obedient disciple and curious professional, she worked at the beginning of her career at hospitals such as Durand Hospital to get a specialization in Psychosomatic Illnesses. “All illnesses have an emotional origin”, she says while ready to share some revelations about her life as a therapist. Having many years of experience, she dares to assert that “psychoanalysis is excellent as a technique but does not reach the pathological base of suffering; I observed that people continued suffering once and again, repeating the same problems. The 45-minute session with the interpretation of the professional is not enough, and by basing our problems on our parents’ faults does not make the issue go away, the focus isn’t placed on the responsibility of our own incapacity to resolve problems and it isn’t transmitted that what you don’t do for yourself, no one else will do for you. Based on this certainty, my technique is bonding therapy, where I establish an extra commitment with the patient. That plus means a different kind of commitment from me and the approval of the patient”. She admits: “There are patients who don’t accept my proposal”. For Verónica Gomelsky (49), psychoanalysis is complemented with Bach Flowers and with her method: bonding therapy. Besides her personal practices with Holistic Light Treatment and Ho’oponopono, of her astrological knowledge and her belief on past lives, her method integrates concepts that she will explain along the interview. Base matrix, “fairly good therapist”, karma, mission and learning of the soul would be some of the integrated notions of her speech. Even if for some, this approach would be controversial her patients give proof that they have obtained evident advances in their health.
Change the base “All the contents we have since the beginning of our life, transmitted by the mother, stays engraved in the subconscious mind as a manufacture seal. When we grow up –we don’t wear diapers anymore but we continue wearing emotional diapers– people want to solve problems with the tools they inherited. I have seen the repetition of severe pathologies according to an emotional familiar genetic; so, if a new emotional base is built, there will be an effective solution” points Gomelsky. “Taking this conclusion as a starting point, after three or four sessions I make a diagnosis and give the patient some feedback with what I think is going on. It is there when I suggest the treatment with bonding psychoanalysis therapy. What does this bonding therapy consist on? It consists on offering myself as a clean slate where my patient projects their primary bonds. But my feedback will be completely different from the feedback they would get from those bonds. I present myself as a “fairly good” therapist–as developed by the English psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott– who set forth the concept of fairly good mother; the one who is present but neither in excess or scarcity, she is in presently enough. Depending on how the primary bonds are –what the contact with the mother left, especially– how they will solve problems in adulthood. As when we grow up we take out the elements that we absorbed when we were kids. My proposal is that each patient knows which their primary structure is. I give them feedback regarding this as well as tools for resolving that structure. Session after session I notice that the patient is releasing the maternal elements. Who is available to transmit healthy concepts, who can dissociate healthily so as not to infect them with personal defects? I do it. In fact, I work with my therapist so as to be healthy and in balance. I must be doing something good as severe pathologies are resolved. Of course, the transition between the base matrix –with all the issues not solved by the mother and received as infection– and the matrix the patient starts to build is an uncomfortable period. During the treatment the base matrix is moving slowly, it can’t be eliminated, it is left as if it were on the corner, it loses meaning and functionality. What I propose today is no longer to use the expired or outdated elements; when we move that base there is nothing left and we have to build a new one”. Authorized and enrolled in Bach Flowers, she starts with the premise that “all illnesses have an emotional origin”, and she adds a precise explanation: “The emotional origin of the illness is on the base matrix. Each time a person gets sick they are going back to their nest. When a person repeats something it is done as an attempt of elaboration, but when one gets sick it’s like going back to the breast with sour milk, one goes back to familiar environment, pathological but known. Bach said that illnesses are produced when the soul and the personality don’t agree, when there’s an imbalance. The not on the throat, the anguish, they don’t go out, they are not eliminated, so where do they go? They go inside and provoke disorder; the physical symptom is the last place where the emotional system can shout. So, when it hurts physically, we listen. And sometimes it ‘s late. I receive people who have serious illnesses, who are diagnosed only three months of living and a lot can be done with them. I achieve results with a very ancient Hawaiian art of problem solving called Ho’oponopono that works with forgiveness and being sorry in order to clean, erase and reach the essence of the identity. Morrnah Simeona updated these teachings, she was recognized as Kahuna lapa’au (healer) in Hawaii and distinguished as a “Living Treasure” by that country in 1983. Together with doctor Ihaleakalá Hew Len she worked on Identity of Self. What does this mean? That if there’s a family conflict it’s enough if there’s just one erasing the damaging imprints –generational mistakes– so that everyone else heals. Whatever is erased in us it is erased from our families and ancestors. In my case, Ho’oponopono operates as a tool at the service of my patients. Ninety percent of our problems come from our ancestors; I apply certain passwords that prepare the area of intuition and make the cleaning possible. Bonding therapy together with the building of the new matrix allow to act from essence and not from heritage. Psychoanalysis reaches a certain limit and I feel that with base matrix I go beyond that limit, stripping the e motional causes of the physical illness”.
Seminars to awaken “I dictate seminars about these topics not to heal people but so that they are informed and are more alert: what you don’t do for yourself no one will do for you. I talk about karma as understanding why we came from our parents, with that particular matrix and what are we here to learn. When you reach those answers, layers start peeling, those layers which hide who you are, what is your essence and your mission in this life. The learning of the soul –another resulting concept– implies that having passed through the previous instances, your soul starts to learn. I also connect matrix with astrology, as most of my patients have not resolve the conflicts with their mother. And what I find in serious pathologies is that there is bad emotional nutrition, a deficit. When I investigate I find out that the Moon is the mother…But all these resources are for me and my seminars, they are meant to cause people to listen and awaken. I am very sure of myself and of what I do –says Gomelsky towards the end of the interview. “I had an important familiar deficit; my mother died when I was 11 years old and my father was a very severe man. But thanks to that karma, I am where I am; I have been saved by the Psychology Dora Jaimóvich –a fairly good professional–with whom I worked the mourning of my mother. I can declare that the one luxury of my life is the family I built with my children’s father, a partner for 32 years. I was pregnant six times and had three kids: Florencia (18), Nico (14) and Sofía (12) and I was a fairly good mother to them. I tried to learn with my children, not to be too present or not present enough. They have their matrix already built and i had retraced their base matrix while they were growing up. Mothers have to help deactivate that base matrix so that the relationship becomes healthier. It would be ideal if we did it at 6; I did it with my kids at 9. Today’s evil is that people don’t look inside and to touch the mother or the ancestors is not well seen. It’s a challenge”. .
“What we don’t do for ourselves, nobody will ever do for us. There are layers which hide who you are…”
By Sissi Ciosescu / Especial Para Mujer / F: Gerardo Del Oro
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