I developed the concept of Base Matrix after many years of clinical experience, understanding that when we are all born we inherit certain emotional basis that come from our primary bonding, our parents.
This emotional base is necessary and essential in the beginning of our lives, structures our psyche and personality, it represents our “primary identity”.
It holds, contains and nourishes, but it is important to clarify that this is only AT THE BEGINNING.
It is transmitted primarily by the mother, it is the first house, the uterus, the first home, the affective memory, it contains unconscious memories of our first years of life.
Because their higher content remains forbidden for us to consciousness, its manifestations are unconscious, are expressed in parapraxes, problems and diseases regardless of our will.
If this basic structure, key at the beginning and unnecessary after, persists over time, represents an infected source of involution, pain, illness and unhappiness.
That’s why the Base Matrix does not disappear when we do therapeutic work corresponding to the change of structure, it only loses its significance, we know its existence but we DON’T USE the problem-solving elements that comes from it.
It is an illusion to believe that primary emotional foundation can work as an ultimate emotional basis, for this reason it is necessary to “build a new emotional basis.”
It needs to be said that “letting go” of the Primary Base Matrix, involves a period of mourning, but it is necessary and it is even better to go through a transitory discomfort than to be the rest of our lives repeating the same painful events of our childhood.
Consider that when resolving conflicts and problems, our psyche uses the elements that you already have in your unconscious. These elements were transmitted at the beginning by a mother who at the same time inherited from another mother; an emotional basis with pathology unresolved. If we continue looking back we would find many generations of mothers with “unresolved conflicts” that today we inherit and that are unfortunately part of our emotional every day.
We all know that many of our sufferings are part of our learning, without them we would not see “what we have to solve”, the difficulty arises in the constant repetition of traumatic events that rather than helping us evolve, stop us at a point I call “the familiarity of the pathological”.
The repetition of problems is an attempt to elaborate them and at the same time it is a way of going back, at times, to a primary family atmosphere, reliving those pains that we already lived in our childhood.
Unconsciously repeating old problems is “getting back with Mom”, it is an absolute symbolic statement.
Repeating this pattern is an unconscious habit that must change, so that “something” changes in our lives. Our experiences have more to do with our ESSENCE rather that with our HERITAGE.
We must take it as a “new birth”, it is essential to find a good enough therapist to achieve structural change and live fully.
For more information about what is your Individual Base Matrix, see in the Upcoming Seminars, the schedule.
Lic. Verónica Gomelsky